How is it even possible that a year has already gone by since we got married? Today marks our one year wedding anniversary, and I am in awe!
I have to admit, Jerry and I defied the odds a bit. If you’ve read our love story, then you’d know that people were skeptical. I’ll be the first to admit, our “courtship” was a little bit on the strange side. We met online, on a fitness website, and were 3,000 miles apart for the first few months of our relationship. During that time, we managed to fall in love… over the internet. When we decided to meet in person, everyone was wary and nervous, but once they saw us together, they changed their minds. From the moment I first saw Jerry standing in that airport, June 15, 2012, to this very day, my love has never wavered. I knew in that very first instant that I loved him and that I would never stop. So what if no one else believed it?
On October 5, 2013, my life changed forever when I became Jerry’s wife. Sometimes I forget how lucky I am that I have a man who picked up his entire life and traveled across the country to be with me. He moved 3,000 miles away, to a place where he knew NO ONE, to give us and me a chance. He left beautiful California for snowy New York because he loves me THAT MUCH. How can I be anything but lucky? I know it’s easy to take others for granted, and sometimes I do just that, but when I really stop and think about it, I know how truly fortunate I am.
I’ve always believed that Jerry is my soulmate. I know this because there is a reason that we were brought together from opposite sides of the country. There is a reason for everything and we were truly supposed to be together. Our wedding solidified everything I already knew about us to be true.
The day we got married was, by and far, the best day of my life so far. I know this day can and will only ever be topped by the birth of our children. And speaking of children, what a first year it has been! In our first year of marriage, we bought our own home and got pregnant!
While life is going great, and we have so much to look forward to in year two, I will say that I’ve learned a lot in our first year. It really is true that marriage can be tough; I won’t sugarcoat it. When you combine your life with someone else’s, there are obvious challenges… but we do our best to compromise and help each other however we can. Sometimes, life is a struggle, money is a struggle, and we can’t always do and get everything we want, but at the end of the day, we have a roof over our head (one that we get to call our very own), a baby on the way, and each other… so what more do we really need?
To Jerry, on our first anniversary: I hope you know that I still feel the exact same way about you now as I did the moment I first laid eyes on you, and the moment I said “I do,” easily two of the greatest moments of my life. I know it’s easy to take people for granted, but I also know how lucky I am to have you as my husband: one of the sweetest and most caring men I know. You are genuine, thoughtful, and sensitive. I hope you never change these things about you. While I know that not every day can be perfect, I hope that every year can be filled with at least some of the joy, fun, and love that we felt on our perfect day. I hope that every week is filled with the laughter and exuberance we shared at our wedding. I am proud of the man you have become. I know you have had some obstacles to overcome in your life, but you continue to make me proud by all the growing you have done and continue to do on a regular basis. You work so hard and make me feel so loved. You take care of me and for that I am so grateful. I can’t wait to see you become a daddy in just a few short months; I am confident you will be an amazing father, just as you have been an amazing husband. Your son is as lucky as I am!
There are a few things I want you to know on our first anniversary:
I want you to know that there is nothing I would change. Not one day, not one second, not even any of the stresses or the struggles. You are still the only one for me, and the only one I would ever choose, for the rest of my life.
I want you to know that the best moments of my life are the moments we spend laughing over nothing, and that I will spend the rest of my life continuing to make you laugh at all my crazy antics (thank you for finding me so funny, by the way).
I want you to know that all of my days are better because I know that I have you. Even on a crappy day, nothing can be that bad because I know that I am loved.
I want you to know that my love is unconditional. NOTHING will ever change that or take it away. We can and will get through anything that life ever throws at us.
I want you to know that my whole entire world changed because of you. Everything. All of it for the better.
I want you to know that I will always strive to be a good wife. We’ve done a lot of growing up in the past year, learning to be spouses, learning to be homeowners, learning to be responsible, learning to love more, and now, learning to be parents and full blown adults. I still have a lot of learning to do, but I’m glad that it’s with you.
And one last thing I want you always to remember, and never to forget: “I love you bigger than the moon…”
“Forever could never be long enough for me to feel like I’ve had long enough with you… marry me, today and every day.”