Three years ago, we said “I do.”
We made vows to one another that we’d be together through sickness and health, for better and for worse… and we have.
This year was one of very high highs but also very low lows. It is easy to forget through the exhaustion and stress of parenthood, home ownership, and two opposite full time work schedules that there is someone important standing right beside you. Someone you promised to love forever. Someone you shared such easy laughter with before life got real. We faced some struggles this year, but we’re still here and I think that’s what counts the most.
We’re still laughing, too, and I KNOW that counts.
Four and a half years ago, we met for the first time. Life was carefree then. WE were carefree. Life seemed easy and so did we. Sometimes, it seems like we’re different people now because of how much life has changed since then: marriage, a house, a baby, FT jobs, real responsibilities, bills galore. It is easy to forget the way we were. We get caught up in life and other things that aren’t quite as important. But sometimes we remember. We remember the person we fell in love with. We go back to that time. We sometimes wish for it back. We sometimes don’t want all this responsibility anymore, all this stress.
But good things never come easy.
We’ve faced a lot of hard things, but hard things are usually the worthwhile things… don’t you think?
Yes, sometimes I want those carefree days back when we didn’t worry about a thing, but then sometimes I don’t.
We have history now. A family now. A story of our own with new pages each day. We don’t always know what the next chapter will bring, but I know it will be interesting; I know it will be worth it. We are writing our own story. It stars us. It stars Caleb. It stars two goofy dogs. It stars me, sending selfies in your shirts. It stars you, folding laundry inside out. The plot line isn’t perfect, but nothing ever is. We will keep writing our story. I won’t go back to the prologue, when the characters first met, though sometimes I want to because the beginning is usually the easiest. I’ll keep writing our story, knowing that the best parts always come in the middle.
No, I won’t go back to the beginning. I like it here, right where we are in chapter three, even if it isn’t quite as easy. Chapter three is the three of us: a family that sometimes makes each other crazy, but at the end of the day, loves each other more. And sometimes, just sometimes, we see glimmers of the people we were before. The people we were when we were younger and had less to worry about. We remember and we become those carefree lovebirds again. We extend that love to our son. We laugh. We reminisce. We remember that life is — mostly — about laughing and loving one another.
And then we remember how we got here, and why we’re still here now.
Happy anniversary to you! I love our little family and can’t wait to keep laughing with you.
“This life will go by
In the blink of an eye
But I wouldn’t wanna spend it without you by my side
The clouds are gonna roll
The earth’s gonna shake
But I’ll be your shelter through the wind and the rain.”
–From the Ground up, Dan + Shay